The other day I needed to do something and I thought to myself, “Eh, I will just wait.”

I waited, and the opportunity to do what I needed to do wasn’t available or I perceived it as such. So I kept waiting and I thought to myself, just do it.  There is never going to be an excellent time to do something.  There will always be: not enough time, not enough money, market conditions aren’t great.  There’s not going to be a great time to do the thing you need to do, especially if it’s something that is really important to you or needs to be done.

Perfect conditions,” do they exist?

A fundraiser (an outdoor sale) was scheduled at my home and I knew it was going to rain.  I knew it was going to be a lot of work and the question of,  would it be worth it? lingered in the air.  While I was having my quiet time in the unknown conditions and the space of, “What do I decide on?” I read in Ecclesiastes 11:4 ~

Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant.
    If they watch every cloud, they never harvest.

Ouch.  I decided to go on with the sale despite the weather. It started as a sunny morning and as the weather forecaster had predicted, the sky proceeded to pour down rain.  People continued to peruse through boxes filled with junk in my garage.   The sale was fun and people had a great attitude about the situation.  I ended up making a couple of hundred dollars towards the goal.  I was glad I continued on with the initial plan  Perfect conditions weren’t in the cards that time but God was.

Truthfully, I had forgotten about this verse from Ecclesiastes  until yesterday.

I believe you have a big dream.  I believe there is a desire so deep in your soul you would die if you didn’t accomplish it.  WHAT IS IT?

There is never going to be a perfect time to go after what you want.  No matter what you want, no matter how big or minute it may seem to youGO FOR IT.  

Here is an excerpt from Inc. from Amazon’s Jeff Bezos to drive my point home.

“In most cases our biggest regrets turn out to be acts of omission. It’s paths not taken and they haunt us. We wonder what would have happened. I knew that when I’m 80, I would never regret trying this thing (quitting a good job to start Amazon) that I was super excited about and it failing.

If it failed, fine. I would be very proud of the fact when I’m 80 that I tried. And I also knew that it would always haunt me if I didn’t try. And so that would be a regret, it would be 100 percent chance of regret if I didn’t try and basically a 0 percent chance of regret if I tried and failed. That’s a useful metric for any important life decision.”

The time is now. Do what you have been putting off for years: there will not be an ideal time to do what you want to accomplish.


Praying for you.

Trust Your Gut: 30 in 30 on the 30 (4)

Trust your gut. On the Health Aide Kombucha labels it says follow your gut.. Your gut knows.


The word Trust (batach) in Hebrew means to have confidence in, to be bold, secure, to feel safe, secure.

In Philippians 4:19 Paul tells us “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”

IMG_0017.JPGI think if I have learned a few things over the past few months it’s to listen to your gut. You may or may not know the Lord. The Holy Spirit is inside you if you do, therefore you can trust if God needs to correct you. However, I believe as human beings, God created us to be intuitive creatures, therefore we have the capability to make sound decisions. Yes we might flirt with the argument of feelings vs rational thoughts and logic but your gut is the notion, the nudge that something isn’t right.


I believe everyone’s tipping point is different but all leading us to a a place of clarity and vision. One time I had a boyfriend in college, we didn’t have any mutual friends, and after a couple of weeks, I thought to myself, this guy is sketch. However because of the way I used to operate, I thought to myself let’s just wait and see what happens. Ha. One day I went to his apartment to bring brownies or something stupid and he was mid-thrust with some chick. It was gross. I was humiliated. Listen to your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Whether that’s buying a cat, or a couch or starting a relationship or taking a job with better perks. Sometimes you get this sense that something isn’t right but you can’t explain it. I guess trusting your gut could be depicted as an uneasy feeling or unsettled or even anxious.


However your body speaks, listen. Your body is more wise than you think or know.

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Happy New Year!!!! 🎈🎆🎊


Hi friends!

Welcome to the New Year! It’s been nothing short of uneventful, if you ask me!

I wanted to share a few things and call it a day.

First off, I am normally very organized and grounded at the start of the year but without a clear vision for the upcoming months. This year, 2018, I have started the year off with a move back to Harlem in the frigid cold. I moved in an Uber XL, typical fashion of course. I almost (key word: almost) have grown to love these moves. Ha.

I thoroughly enjoy the interaction with my Uber drivers. Always a He~ this particular Uber driver, Wei says, “No way,” as he picks me in his mini-van.  After playing Tetris with my belongings we drive away from Cornelia Street.  Wei says, “Never had I ever believe your stuff would fit!” Laughing. Chuckling. “Your bed and all- it fit!”

Out of Bushwick I went. I was glad to leave Bushwick- the home of too much drinking (speaking for myself!)

Which leads to my second point. I am not drinking this year. I am taking a year of sobriety and cleansing. Leading to my third point/ topic:

Have you picked a word for the year, if so what is it?


My home church (PC3) is the pioneer for ‘my one word’-  a construct for the new year instead of creating resolutions which ultimately seem to crumble a few months later.

Third, I am going to be intentional about building a stronger community and deeper friendships and dating!! Bring on the good looking men who love Jesus and females!

PS I have wanted to run a half marathon for the past 7 years and now is the time.

PSS if you need prayer this month in particular hit me up via insta: ___choosejoy___  😎❤️

Part 30: 30 in 30 on 30.

Quality/ Quantity:

I think I can confuse quality with quantity.

I think I can believe more is more. My need for extra, whether that be activities, spending, or people. I know the more I have planned, and the well-meaning activities and coffee dates, the less I have to extend to others. Stretched thin.


This year I want to take the time to pour more into the people I love and the activities I enjoy doing. Instead of doing something out of obligation or guilt or because it’s the Godly thing to do, choosing to not do it. Doing what’s right for self which ultimately is a benefit for others.


Part 27: 30 in 30 on 30.


Get a good night’s rest.  If you need to restore from a hard week, take a couple of hours and sleep. Allow time for yourself, especially if you are on vacation.  Let your body heal and feel rejuvenated, you will be a better person for it.


Its okay to go to bed early, its okay to stay up, by nature I am a night owl.  I know what my body needs more so than I used to.

A friend of mine offered advice on matters such as sleep and decision paralysis said, “A lot of times when I am making decisions or unclear with the next move or step I need to make or why am I doing what I am doing, asks himself, am I tired, hungry, sleepy or lonely?”  Giving him better leverage on how to move forward with where he wants to go and from what perspective or need he is doing so. Now I step back and ask myself these questions; stepping back allows me to see where I am and what I need in that moment.


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Part 26: 30 in 30 on 30.

Little Things,

Dear Self,

It’s the small things.

The seemingly meaningless acts are in the thank you notes.  The gesture of  a gift; the gesticulation of appreciation, the motion of thoughtfulness.


[Ness] suffix – added to adjectives to form nouns that refer to a quality or a condition


Remember these little things: it’s in the wrapping.  These “things,” like smiling, are  important – you will forget to do them.  Certain moments will remind you to keep practicing these acts.

Kisses on the forehead.


Extend grace, so much grace because one day you will need it too. From my experience you will be thankful for it: Grace. Learn to embrace the small things, remaining unbound to the perfection of it.  Try not to let the small things pass.  It is an ingredient towards excellence.  It is within the minute details that creates perfection.

selamat tinggal


Part 25: 30 in 30 on 30.

It takes a Village.

I believe every time we progress in life or take a step forward it is because of five other people behind the scenes helping, motivating, and/or empowering us.  I know I would not be where I am today without fifteen people behind me.  Its like a pit crew- it takes finesse, ease, and the appropriate strategies to move forward.  At the end of the day i believe you need to surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed.ferrari-f1-pit-crew-1024x647

It is no accident we have certain people in our life at various seasons. In my experience, I believe people genuinely want to do the right things.  We fail, often. Other times we succeed and do impressive things, beautiful things in fact, but it is not because we did it alone. We need other people.

Part 24: 30 in 30 on 30.


I feel like I have spent a lot of my life hating the way I look in the mirror.

I looked at my reflection the other day and I thought, I need to love myself.

So today, I choose to love myself and stop judging. I am choosing to stop being in a war with my outward appearance.

I choose to stop silently judging myself on every single thing I wear or don’t wear or lifestyle choices and trends because the world says to look or say or do or be like this or that. You can’t keep up. I refuse to reduce my self worth to that of a L’Oréal campaign or model who is a professional in the industry.

In reality we are beautiful:  fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

The world wants us to hate ourselves; yet God created us exactly as He intended. I am not a mistake nor are you.

You possess a beauty deep within you: an intuition, a trust, a confidence and boldness- that is sexy.

Kindness is the most beautiful sight in the whole world, especially in a cute outfit.


Part 23: 30 in 30 on 30.

Decorate your life.


Decorate your life with rainbows and sprinkles, blue wigs accompanied with friends and hair bows with turtles and unicorns. Adorn your life with color; put on fake snowman nails and sprinkle cookies with a dash of love and fairy dust. Laugh.


Stop worrying so much about plans and time and embellish the important parts. Bedecking isn’t a luxury, it is a necessity- like a cupcake without frosting, this is a life devoid of whimsy and fun. Decorate. It’s more fun anyway.